tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5383518.post8335016309643608517..comments2023-08-23T05:07:53.867-06:00Comments on Zaakistan: Anger; Control; Pride; Humility; Peace.Zaakhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00503666938286479556noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5383518.post-53595853072864464782015-02-13T10:03:01.210-07:002015-02-13T10:03:01.210-07:00Good thoughts Jasen. I agree that the fishbowl asp...Good thoughts Jasen. I agree that the fishbowl aspect of sharing a house / intimate community brings our behaviour closer to what we each believe is the best behaviour. It's the "if no one's looking vs. if someone's looking" paradigm really. So even though we may not be working out of the best intentions (ie. approval of our housemates), we are developing better habits as a result (ie. anger management).Zaakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00503666938286479556noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5383518.post-81812853109583776712015-02-06T11:51:41.426-07:002015-02-06T11:51:41.426-07:00In temperament, as I find in many other personal q...In temperament, as I find in many other personal quirks and aspects, we share similarities. <br /><br />I think one of the unspoken benefits of sharing space with another family, is the personal desire to be more conscious of one's own behaviour (particularly when paired with emotion). In my own moments of adult temper tantrums, I feel the mirror is always close at hand. Being able to observe 4 kids and 3 adults, all completely different, gives me a much greater understanding and appreciation for the very personal dynamics of anger.<br /><br />I'm at a point where I know what my triggers are... What I need to be better at his noticing them on the fly, naming them, communicating them appropriately and then letting them go. In the moment, it's hard for me to remember that anger is about an internal handling of an external issue. <br /><br />I've always been a bottler-upper: micro events not being dealt with until the cumulative impact requires a messy, carbonated spillover. I'm personally working on keeping the cap off (either through communication or letting go) to prevent the exploding can effect.Jasenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15503195667296803916noreply@blogger.com